Again, Men and Women Are Biologically Different

If you’re interested in the scientific roots of this discussion, as I am, please click here to read David P. Schmitt’s lengthy article “Sex and Gender Are Dials (Not Switches)” in full.
I share it because, as a dating coach who reads incessantly about gender, sex, and relationship dynamics, I want to ensure that I’m giving the most informed, responsible advice. One of the things that underlie my advice is that, while men and women are equal, they are different biologically. Of course, one look below your waist would tell you that, but the way the online dialogue goes these days, it bears repeating.
Gender discrimination is

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I Have a Great Boyfriend with Issues. Should I Stick Around or Cut My Losses?

After 4-6 weeks of dating, I’ve been in an exclusive relationship with a man 4 years my junior (I am 36) who has had some significant struggles in his life: he is aware of their impacts and is actively addressing them – most recently leaving a relationship that had activated some of his own issues. As someone who has overcome my own history of dysfunctional family life and personal strife, I admire his commitment to his own health, and empathize with his journey. In many other ways he is also fantastic: he owns several properties, has several degrees in engineering, has managed to find a

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Healthy Masculinity: an Interview with Evan Marc Katz by Amy Loftus

In the past few months, I’ve penned two pieces that touched on hot-button issues.
One was called “Why Men Aren’t Speaking Up About the #MeToo Movement.”
The other was called “Why Married Women Get a Raw Deal.”
My intention was to insert myself into the narrative so that I could offer a nuanced first-person take on both issues. Yet, both pieces missed the mark.
In the former, I posited that there are a lot of good guys who don’t know what to do about #MeToo and that change will take place with more courageous women calling men out for sexual harassment. The criticism was that I was absolving men of

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Why Do Men Not Want to Understand Women?

There’s an entire self-help world built on women looking in the mirror, taking responsibility and earnestly trying to understand what men are thinking. Men, on the other hand, remain somewhere between clueless and indifferent. Why? And what do we do in a world where only half the population wants to understand the other half?
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What Should I Say to Men Who Ask Me Out While on a First Date?

I’m back into dating after a 20+ year marriage, having read and implemented your valuable advice in “Finding the One Online.” Even though I’m in my mid-50s, grossly over-educated, and live in a small town, I find I have plenty of potentially-compatible men who are expressing interest in me. So, thank you, Evan, for that! 
My question is about how to say: “you’re great, but not for me” face-to-face at the end of a first date. (I expect this is something many women struggle with.) I’ve have ‘scripts’ for most situations where I want to say “no, thank you” in writing. This makes it easy and

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Why Women Cheat on Their Husbands

It’s hard to keep up with statistics. People cherry pick the ones that make their case, and I suppose I’m no different. I instinctively abhor statistics that insinuate that men are bad, relationships are doomed, and marriage is a dying institution – probably because I consider myself a good man who is happily married.
That said, I’m always trying to challenge my own confirmation bias – having come to terms with the unfortunate facts that 1/4 of women have been sexually assaulted and that only 1/3 of all marriages are happy. This latest study is another example that flies in the face of something that seems obvious:

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A Book About Love – an Interview With Jonah Lehrer

Want to understand how to choose a long-term partner that’s meant to last? Join me on this special Love U podcast with Jonah Lehrer about “A Book About Love.” Lehrer has written a seminal book for any woman who wants to know what really matters in relationships.
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How Many Pics Are Enough for Online Dating?

I have a particular question about sending pictures to potential dates. I have on my dating profiles two to three pictures, all recent. I’m honest about my age, height, and whatever else I write down. After exchanging numbers the men ask for more pictures. I understand they don’t want to be fooled so I send another one or two.
But the pattern is that they don’t stop demanding more. This has led me to stop talking to some guys who may have been a great potential. I wince when they ask me to send a “body shot”. Not because of issues with my image, but

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Testosterone Turns Men Into Bad Decision Makers

I’m not sure why, but I love this article.
It illustrates two concepts that are scientifically proven but often challenged.

Men are different than women – specifically because of testosterone.
This difference manifests in how men behave.

“Neuroscientists are uncovering evidence suggesting that when men take testosterone, they make more impulsive — and often faulty — decisions.
Researchers have shown for years that men tend to be more confident about their intelligence and judgments than women, believing that solutions they’ve generated are better than they actually are. This hubris could be tied to testosterone levels, and new research by Gideon Nave, a cognitive neuroscientist at the University of Pennsylvania, along with Amos

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What Makes a Good First Date?

If you’re sick of endless texts from flaky guys… If you’re tired of paying for your own frappucino… If you suspect that dating might be more fun if guys “got it”… Join me for today’s Love U Podcast on what makes a man a good first date.
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